Breaking the Cycle and Healing Through Therapy

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 Seeking validation from partners who are consistently absent or abusive could be a trauma response. 

Growing up with consistently absent, uninvolved or abusive parents, especially during the crucial period when our core beliefs and self-perception take shape, often leads us to internalize beliefs of being unworthy or unlovable.

Today, many find themselves caught in a cycle, craving closeness and love from individuals who mirror the traits of their caregivers—disinterested, absorbed in their own thoughts, work, or other people (Freud had a point!).

This the mind’s attempt to recreate a relationship where we can, perhaps for the first time, experience the love and care we have always craved since childhood.

In doing so, we try to prove to ourselves that we are indeed lovable and enough!

This time, the hope is that they won't leave.

They will show they care, bringing love to the child within us.

However, they most probably may repeat the pattern, leaving us in misery once again!

These realizations run deep and could only be revealed to us through extensive cognitive work and introspection to uncover the underlying beliefs we carry into adulthood.

Therapy helps us:

-understand our behavioral patterns

-process our traumas

-identify our traumatic responses

Take home message: 

Most importantly, therapy helps us develop healthier ways of thinking and acting to heal and cultivate healthier relationships that we truly deserve✨

If you find yourself struggling to process hard feelings or connect with yourself, don't hesitate to reach out and send me a message or an email on kindmindbydana@gmail.com ðŸ˜Š

Yours truly,

Dana Berri

Kindness is not just a virtue, it's a way of life. 

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