KindMindbyDana

If your work identity dominates the way you see yourself, it may be helpful to reconsider this aspect of your identity. ‘I am…’ vs. ‘I work as…’. Why defining ourselves through our work or job is not ideal? Well, things can go wrong at work.  Imagine this scenario: You worked hard on a presentation, practicing all night, but your client didn't show up for the meeting. Or even worse, they attended but weren't impressed, changed their minds, or went with another project. And if you only view yourself through the lens of work, your self-perception may deteriorate, which can be challenging, for sure. Instead of processing it as an ‘unsuccessful pitch’, you might find yourself thinking ‘ I am not good enough’, ‘I am a failure’, or ‘I failed as a consultant’, ‘This is a huge embarrassment…’ , you name it. Embracing our wholeness is very important; while we may be deeply passionate about our work, we should remember that our identity extends beyond our jobs. You can mess up at work, ...

  Parenting can be frustrating sometimes. Although I'm not a parent myself, I've learned about it from my clients in therapy sessions and real-life experiences. And that it's entirely normal! When we become parents, we're still the same people we were before with our own dreams, ideas, emotions, successes, and mistakes. But that doesn't excuse yelling or shouting at our kids. Keep in mind, as a parent, you're also like a guide, a teacher, and someone your child looks up to. It may sound cliché, but try to be the kind of parent you always wanted for yourself. You can do this easily in four simple steps, starting with yourself: Check in with yourself first and take a deep breath. Is it a good time to have this ‘tough’ conversation with your child? If not, take a short break to calm down and relax.  This will activate your parasympathetic nervous system to help you create a comfortable and safe environment for both of you. Remember, it is you and your child against...

What do you know about FOMO, or the Fear of Missing Out? It is a Saturday morning, you are sitting in your living room having coffee and planning your day. You want to spend some time with your partner, work on your project, and catch up with your family over lunch in the afternoon. You notice your WhatsApp groups going crazy, and it is only 9 am! Your friends are sending pictures from yesterday’s party, and they are all talking about this amazing boat trip planned for today! The pictures look so fun and you suddenly feel miserable. Your Saturday perfect plan, just turned into a lame and boring plan! You start thinking ‘I am working on the weekend, and missing out on all the fun’. You go back and check the pictures again. You suddenly find yourself on instagram checking all the stories form last night.  Can you relate? Don’t worry, you are not the only one. FOMO is not a mental disorder, but it is a phenomenon that is significantly increasing and becoming more and more common. It c...